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Untangling the Knots in Your Thinking: Cognitive Distortions and Restructuring

Writer: Aiena MehtaAiena Mehta


Have you ever felt like your thoughts are tangled up in a ball of yarn, each strand leading to a pit of negativity and anxiety? If so, you're not alone. We all experience thoughts that twist situations out of perspective, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and helpless. These twisted threads are called cognitive distortions, and the good news is, we can learn to untangle them and weave a more positive tapestry of thinking.


What are Cognitive Distortions?


Imagine seeing a single dark cloud in the sky and assuming it means a torrential downpour is imminent. That's what cognitive distortions do - they magnify negatives, minimize positives, and jump to irrational conclusions. These skewed interpretations of reality can fuel emotions like anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Here are some common examples:


  • All-or-nothing thinking: Seeing things in extremes, like "If I don't get an A on this test, I'm a failure."

  • Overgeneralization: One setback becomes a pattern, like "I messed up this presentation, I'm always going to be bad at public speaking."

  • Mind reading: Assuming you know what others are thinking, often negatively, like "Everyone can tell I'm nervous, I must look like a total idiot."

  • Personalization: Taking responsibility for things outside your control, like "My friend cancelled our plans, it must be because I did something wrong."

  • Catastrophizing: When you blow the negative aspects of a situation out of proportion, and imagine the worst possible outcome, while diminishing the positive aspects. For example, "If I don't get this job, I'll never find another one and I'll be homeless."

  • Should Thinking: Should thinking happens when you have rigid rules and expectations for yourself and others.  For example, you say things such as "I should be able to handle everything on my own."

  • Emotional Reasoning:  It refers to the false belief that your emotions are the truth — and that the way you feel about a situation or person is a reliable indicator of reality. For example, "I feel like a failure, so I must be one."


The Magic of Cognitive Restructuring:

This isn't about pretending everything is rainbows and sunshine. It's about learning to question the unhelpful, distorted narratives our minds create. Cognitive restructuring is the magic wand that helps us do this. Think of it as unraveling the tangled yarn, examining each thread, and reweaving it into a more balanced and realistic picture.

Here's how it works:


  1. Identify the cognitive distortions by self monitoring: Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions. When you feel overwhelmed or negative, ask yourself, "What am I thinking right now?" Is it an all-or-nothing thought? Overgeneralization? Once you identify the distortion, name it!

  2. Question the thoughts and evidence: Ask yourself, "Is this thought really true? Is there any evidence to support it, or could there be another way to look at the situation?" Gather evidence that contradicts the distortion. Maybe that test grade doesn't define your entire worth, or maybe one bad presentation doesn't erase your public speaking skills.

  3. Reframe the thoughts: Replace the distorted thought with a more realistic and helpful one. Instead of "I'm a failure," you might say, "I made a mistake on this test, but that doesn't mean I'm not smart or capable."

  4. Test the Reframed resoning: When you ask questions such as how does this new perspective make you fee; is it based on logic; is it more accurate and helpful, yyou are testing your reframed thoughts.

It Takes Practice, But It's Worth It:

Cognitive restructuring takes time and effort. Just like untangling a knotted yarn, it requires patience and persistence. But the rewards are immense. By learning to identify and challenge distorted thinking, you can:


  • Reduce stress and anxiety

  • Improve your mood and self-esteem

  • Build stronger relationships

  • Feel more empowered and in control of your life

Remember, you're not alone in this journey. If you're struggling with cognitive distortions, consider seeking professional help from a therapist who can guide you through the process. With practice and understanding, you can weave a tapestry of thought that reflects the fullness and strength you possess.


Have a look at the use of a cognitive restructuring worksheet in this video: https://youtu.be/65VH5_cBgr8


YOu can use the same worksheet to challenge your cognitive distortions. Here's a free copy for you:



I hope that it helps!


Don't let cognitive distortions dictate your story. Take control of your thinking and rewrite your narrative with the power of cognitive restructuring.


Feel free to leave a comment below or share your experiences with cognitive distortions and cognitive restructuring. Together, we can untangle the knots and weave a brighter future for ourselves and each other.

 
 
 

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